FROM THE WORDS; Of Ashaba Hamdan

I first met Ashaba three years back at Mbogo Mixed during our high school times. He was a boy of class I recall.

26/12/016, Ashaba  tagged me in a Facebook post and let me take this opportunity to share  the good message with you.

Words of Ashaba 


This message goes out to all boys who are in the same age bracket as mine ie 22 to 29 years.it will try to show u reality abt the life we are abt to start living

ie if u are still at the university or if u have completed. Pliz guys let's put aside good expectations and face reality, let's stop showing off with the little we have and work hard to achieve much coz life is a hard nut to crack

Let's pray always and avoid showoffs, competition, selfishness and work harder. Life is not easy. Best of luck to who ever read as this.

The most difficult age for any man should be between 22 and 29 years, the pressure to be something, to be someone is so immense.

 When you look around you, everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of.
 You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Ugandans' hope for another President!

 Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol, drugs or gambling [betting], because the disappointments become too much and you endup finding alternative ways to face reality.

 Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner - mostly they don’t even cut you out but you be real with yourself and cut yourself off.

 I mean what will u do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends discussing about last week’s trip in Zanzibar and planning another road trip to Kigali and "beach ting dis" while you are not sure of what your next meal would be? [that's if you don't wait from mama's Kitchen]

 Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around, the more the pressure to be something takes a toll on you.

 You know when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house.

Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers shit services and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that
 talks about boda boda“.

But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting..

Once in a while one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another drink and you wonder if you should just say No and head home, but head home to what? So you grudgingly drop in the “I will have just one last one“ Lie.

 But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town.

To imagine that 4 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with hello food.

 This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, and In fact, the Prestigious Makerere [Now closed of course]

~it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at caffesserie will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 20k and you sort your meals for the next 5 days.

 As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has borne the city dust and survives on boiled beans.

 The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try and date – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in te..................

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